🫧My Quiet Space
Everyone else keeps going. The noise, the activity, the people. But your child needs to stop. Not because they're weak — because their brain processes everything at once, and right now it needs a break.
What's actually happening
Sensory overload occurs when the nervous system receives more input than it can process efficiently. For sensory-sensitive children, everyday environments (classrooms, supermarkets, birthday parties) can exceed their processing capacity. Dunn (1997) identified 'sensory avoiding' as a legitimate nervous system response — the child withdraws to reduce input. This is adaptive, not maladaptive. Kinnealey et al. (2011) found that providing access to 'sensory retreats' — quiet, low-stimulation spaces — significantly reduced anxiety and improved self-regulation in sensory-sensitive children. The need for quiet is neurological, not behavioural.
What parents usually try
"Don't be antisocial"
Frames the child's neurological need as a social failure. Withdrawal from sensory overwhelm is a coping strategy, not a personality deficit (Kinnealey et al., 2011).
Encouraging them to push through
Can work for mild discomfort but causes shutdown in genuine overload. The child's nervous system has a threshold, and exceeding it consistently leads to increased sensitivity over time (Miller et al., 2007).
Creating perfect quiet environments at home
Helpful but unsustainable in the real world. Teaching the child to identify their own need for quiet and to create portable 'quiet' strategies (headphones, a specific breathing pattern) builds lifelong self-regulation (Dunn, 1997).
What actually helps
The story validates the child's experience without pathologising it. The character doesn't need fixing — they need a quiet space, and they know how to find one. This models self-advocacy: the ability to recognise 'I need a break' and act on it. Kinnealey et al. (2011) found that children who were taught to identify and communicate their sensory needs showed significant reductions in both anxiety and challenging behaviour. The story teaches the child that taking a quiet break is a skill, not a withdrawal.
How this story works
Sensory-aware storytelling validates the need for withdrawal and quiet. The story normalises sensory breaks and teaches the child to advocate for what they need.
What your child hears
Your child's character finds a place that's just right — quiet, calm, and theirs. The story doesn't rush them back to the noise. It sits with them in the stillness and shows them that needing quiet isn't hiding. It's recharging.
When to use this story
After a sensory-overloading experience
Before known challenging environments
As a calm-down story during wind-down time
When the child is struggling to communicate their need for space
As a regular story for children who benefit from sensory-calming narratives
After the story
The story is the beginning. Here's how to keep it going:
“Where is your quiet space?”
“What do you like to see/touch/hear when you're in your quiet space?”
“What helps your body feel calm?”
Try this
Create or designate a real quiet space together
The research behind this approach(show)
Evidence-based stories for neurodivergent children using social narrative approaches, narrative therapy, and sensory-aware storytelling.
- Gray, C. (2015). The New Social Story Book (15th Anniversary Edition). Future Horizons.
- White, M. & Epston, D. (1990). Narrative Means to Therapeutic Ends. Norton.
- Dunn, W. (2007). Living Sensationally: Understanding Your Senses. Jessica Kingsley Publishers.